On your journey to recovery you will experience good days and bad days. Recovery takes a lot of time and hard work. It's important that you recognize the "warning signs" of a relapse. If you are able to recognize that this is happening, it is important that you share this with those helping you. You may not want to admit to those helping you that you are experiencing a relapse for fear that you may disappoint them or that they may get angry with you. I can assure you that will not happen. They are there to help you and they will appreciate your honesty. Many people experience periods of relapse during recovery. It is during this time that you must rely on your support systems to help you get through this. Below is a list of warning signs that may indicate that you are experiencing a relapse. If you are experiencing any of these signs, I would urge you to speak to your therapist about it.
Increase in obsessive thinking about food and weight
Wanting to be in control all the time
Perfectionistic attitudes
Wanting to escape from stressful situations
Feeling hopeless about work, relationships or life
Believing you will be happy and successful if thin
Feeling of being "too fat", even though people say otherwise
Wanting to isolate
Unable to use your support systems
Being dishonest with those helping you about your symptoms
Looking in the mirror often
Daily weighing
Avoiding certain foods because of the calorie content
Purchasing mostly diet foods
Skipping meals
Excessive exercising
Wearing only loose fitting clothes
Thoughts of suicide
Feeling disgusted with oneself after eating
Today I will eat like a normal person. I will not have a slip because today is going to be a good day."
Many people suffering with an eating disorder wake up each morning saying those exact words to themselves or something similar. When I finally admitted to having an eating disorder, I think I said those words to myself every morning for two years straight before I decided to seek help. Every morning I promised myself I would have a good day, but it never happened. By promising ourselves that we will not have a slip, we are actually setting ourselves up for that to happen. One of the most important things for someone in recovery to remember and accept is that we cannot recover perfectly. Instead of waking up each day promising yourself that you will not have a slip, try telling yourself that
\u003cfont color\u003d\"#003500\"\>"\u003c/font\>\u003cfont color\u003d\"#400040\"\>Today I will do my best. If I have a good day, I will be proud of myself. If I have a bad day, I will not dwell on it, I will forgive myself, I will put it behind me and I will continue to move forward in my recovery."\n\u003c/font\>\u003c/b\> Relapses are a very normal part of recovery and they are to be expected. They can last for a day, a week, a month or longer, but a relapse does not mean that you have failed. Usually when someone has a slip or is experiencing a relapse, they tend to believe that they have failed and that they are hopeless. Some will punish themselves for having those slips which can cause the relapse to continue. Instead of focusing on the bad days, try reminding yourself of all the good days that you have had and all the progress you have made.\n\u003c/p\>\n\u003cp\>Relapses can come on quickly and many different things can trigger them. Stress, family conflicts, financial and work problems are only a few to mention. Being in therapy and dealing with the underlying issues usually does bring on a relapse and at times the eating disorder can go out of control. The more you deal with and come to terms with the issues causing the problem, the less you will turn to the eating disorder behaviors as a way to cope. You will also learn new and healthier ways of coping so that you will be prepared to deal with future problems when they arise. \n\u003c/p\>\n\u003cp\>Below is a list of suggestions that might help you prevent a relapse or deal with one after it happens: \n\u003cul\>\n\u003cli\>If you are experiencing some of the Relapse Warning Signs, be sure to discuss this with your therapist so that he/she can help you. \n\u003cli\>Do not punish yourself after a slip or relapse. Remind yourself that no one can recover perfectly and relapses are a normal part of recovery. \n\u003cli\>During difficult times it is important to reach out and talk to someone about how you are feeling and what is happening. Many people tend to isolate themselves during those rough periods, which only makes things worse. When we keep our feelings and emotions locked up inside ourselves, that is when we really rely on our eating disorders as a way to cope with or block out those feelings and emotions. \n",1]
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"Today I will do my best. If I have a good day, I will be proud of myself. If I have a bad day, I will not dwell on it, I will forgive myself, I will put it behind me and I will continue to move forward in my recovery." Relapses are a very normal part of recovery and they are to be expected. They can last for a day, a week, a month or longer, but a relapse does not mean that you have failed. Usually when someone has a slip or is experiencing a relapse, they tend to believe that they have failed and that they are hopeless. Some will punish themselves for having those slips which can cause the relapse to continue. Instead of focusing on the bad days, try reminding yourself of all the good days that you have had and all the progress you have made.
Relapses can come on quickly and many different things can trigger them. Stress, family conflicts, financial and work problems are only a few to mention. Being in therapy and dealing with the underlying issues usually does bring on a relapse and at times the eating disorder can go out of control. The more you deal with and come to terms with the issues causing the problem, the less you will turn to the eating disorder behaviors as a way to cope. You will also learn new and healthier ways of coping so that you will be prepared to deal with future problems when they arise.
Below is a list of suggestions that might help you prevent a relapse or deal with one after it happens:
If you are experiencing some of the Relapse Warning Signs, be sure to discuss this with your therapist so that he/she can help you.
Do not punish yourself after a slip or relapse. Remind yourself that no one can recover perfectly and relapses are a normal part of recovery.
During difficult times it is important to reach out and talk to someone about how you are feeling and what is happening. Many people tend to isolate themselves during those rough periods, which only makes things worse. When we keep our feelings and emotions locked up inside ourselves, that is when we really rely on our eating disorders as a way to cope with or block out those feelings and emotions.
If you had a slip or relapse, sit down and figure out why it happened. By doing that you can see why it happened and make a plan for how to prevent it in the future when faced with a similar situation. \n\u003cli\>Make a list of situations you feel might cause you to have a slip or relapse. Look over each situation and make a plan ahead of time for how you will handle them without resorting to the eating disorder behaviors as a way to cope. \n\u003cli\>Do not fool yourself into believing that you are cured if you are eating normally but have not dealt with the underlying issues causing the eating disorder. Unless those issues are dealt with, relapses will eventually happen. \n\u003cli\>Dealing with the underlying issues can be very difficult and most people do relapse when faced with painful memories, feelings and emotions. Many people try to isolate during the rough periods, but it is during times like that when you need to reach out for extra help and support. \n\u003cli\>It is important that you have extra support during those difficult times to help you get through them. If there is a support group in your town, you might want to think about joining it. Being around others that know and understand how you feel can be very helpful. If in therapy, try seeing or calling your therapist more often, especially on the days when you feel out of control. If your family or friends are supportive, do not be afraid to let them know that you are having a difficult time so that they can help provide you with the extra love and support that you need. \n\u003cli\>Be careful that you are not switching from one compulsion to another. It is very common for people to turn to alcohol, drugs, gambling, sex, self-injury, etc., as a way to cope when they are not engaging in the eating disorder behaviors. \n\u003cli\>Take time out each day to take very special care of yourself. Most people with eating disorders are too busy trying to please and take care of others that they neglect their own personal needs. Do something that you enjoy and find relaxing. It might be going on a nature walk, reading a good book or taking a nice hot bath. It does not matter what it is, just as long as it is something that you like and it is done for yourself. \n",1]
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If you had a slip or relapse, sit down and figure out why it happened. By doing that you can see why it happened and make a plan for how to prevent it in the future when faced with a similar situation.
Make a list of situations you feel might cause you to have a slip or relapse. Look over each situation and make a plan ahead of time for how you will handle them without resorting to the eating disorder behaviors as a way to cope.
Do not fool yourself into believing that you are cured if you are eating normally but have not dealt with the underlying issues causing the eating disorder. Unless those issues are dealt with, relapses will eventually happen.
Dealing with the underlying issues can be very difficult and most people do relapse when faced with painful memories, feelings and emotions. Many people try to isolate during the rough periods, but it is during times like that when you need to reach out for extra help and support.
It is important that you have extra support during those difficult times to help you get through them. If there is a support group in your town, you might want to think about joining it. Being around others that know and understand how you feel can be very helpful. If in therapy, try seeing or calling your therapist more often, especially on the days when you feel out of control. If your family or friends are supportive, do not be afraid to let them know that you are having a difficult time so that they can help provide you with the extra love and support that you need.
Be careful that you are not switching from one compulsion to another. It is very common for people to turn to alcohol, drugs, gambling, sex, self-injury, etc., as a way to cope when they are not engaging in the eating disorder behaviors.
Take time out each day to take very special care of yourself. Most people with eating disorders are too busy trying to please and take care of others that they neglect their own personal needs. Do something that you enjoy and find relaxing. It might be going on a nature walk, reading a good book or taking a nice hot bath. It does not matter what it is, just as long as it is something that you like and it is done for yourself.
This can be hard at times, but try to think positively. If you believe you will never recover, then you won't, but if you believe that you will recover, they you will. \n\u003cli\>Do not dwell on past slips and relapses because they are in the past and we cannot change the past. Do not worry about how you will handle tomorrow because it is not here yet and we cannot predict the future. Recovery is a one day at a time process. All any of us have is today and we need to live for this day. \n\u003cli\>Buy a daily devotion book to help you begin the day. "Beyond The Looking Glass" is a book for recovering anorexics and bulimics and provides devotions for each day of the year. "Beyond Feast or Famine" is a book for compulsive eaters and it also provides devotions for every day of the year. These books can be a great way to help you start each day in a positive way. \n\u003c/li\>\u003c/li\>\u003c/li\>\u003c/li\>\u003c/li\>\u003c/li\>\u003c/li\>\u003c/li\>\u003c/li\>\u003c/li\>\u003c/li\>\u003c/li\>\u003c/li\>\u003c/ul\>\n\u003cp\>Making a plan ahead of time and learning new and healthier ways to cope is a good way to prevent slips or relapses from occurring. It is not always possible for us to put that plan into action and we do have slips. It is okay when that happens and you have not failed. Instead of punishing yourself for those slips, you can learn from them and they can make you stronger. Recovery is a long road and at times you may feel like giving up, but it is important that you do not stop fighting. None of us are hopeless and we all have the power within ourselves to recover.\n\u003c/p\>\n\u003cp\>Recovering from an eating disorder takes time. You did not develop your eating disorder over night and it will not go away that quickly either. It is important to remember that no one can recovery perfectly and there will be slips and relapses during the recovery process. This is normal and it is to be expected. The Relapse Prevention Plan is something that may be helpful to you in preventing a relapse.\n\u003c/p\>\u003cfont size\u003d\"5\"\>\u003cu\>\u003cb\>\n\u003cp\>\u003cfont color\u003d\"#400040\"\>Things Which May Cause Slips and Relapses \u003c/font\>\u003c/p\>",1]
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This can be hard at times, but try to think positively. If you believe you will never recover, then you won't, but if you believe that you will recover, they you will.
Do not dwell on past slips and relapses because they are in the past and we cannot change the past. Do not worry about how you will handle tomorrow because it is not here yet and we cannot predict the future. Recovery is a one day at a time process. All any of us have is today and we need to live for this day.
Buy a daily devotion book to help you begin the day. "Beyond The Looking Glass" is a book for recovering anorexics and bulimics and provides devotions for each day of the year. "Beyond Feast or Famine" is a book for compulsive eaters and it also provides devotions for every day of the year. These books can be a great way to help you start each day in a positive way.
Making a plan ahead of time and learning new and healthier ways to cope is a good way to prevent slips or relapses from occurring. It is not always possible for us to put that plan into action and we do have slips. It is okay when that happens and you have not failed. Instead of punishing yourself for those slips, you can learn from them and they can make you stronger. Recovery is a long road and at times you may feel like giving up, but it is important that you do not stop fighting. None of us are hopeless and we all have the power within ourselves to recover.
Recovering from an eating disorder takes time. You did not develop your eating disorder over night and it will not go away that quickly either. It is important to remember that no one can recovery perfectly and there will be slips and relapses during the recovery process. This is normal and it is to be expected. The Relapse Prevention Plan is something that may be helpful to you in preventing a relapse.
Things Which May Cause Slips and Relapses
\u003c/u\>\u003c/font\>\n\u003cul\>\n\u003cli\>Stress \n\u003cli\>Dealing with the underlying issues in therapy \n\u003cli\>Becoming overwhelmed by feelings and emotions \n\u003cli\>Death of a family member, friend, etc. \n\u003cli\>Marital and family problems \n\u003cli\>Feelings of loneliness, shame, guilt, anger, and abandonment. \n\u003cli\>People's reactions to changes you are making in your life \n\u003cli\>Fear of change and/or living without the eating disorder \u003c/li\>\u003c/li\>\u003c/li\>\u003c/li\>\u003c/li\>\u003c/li\>\u003c/li\>\u003c/li\>\u003c/ul\>\n\u003cp\>These are a few things that can cause someone to have a slip or relapse. At the time, the person may be overwhelmed by any of the above and end up resorting to old methods of coping.\u003c/p\>\u003cb\>\n\u003cp align\u003d\"center\"\>\u003cfont color\u003d\"#400040\"\>Create your own list of things that you feel may cause you to have a slip or relapse:\u003c/font\>\u003c/p\>\n\u003cp align\u003d\"center\"\>______________________________\u003cWBR\>____ ______________________________\u003cWBR\>_____\u003c/p\>\n\u003cp align\u003d\"center\"\>______________________________\u003cWBR\>____ ______________________________\u003cWBR\>_____\u003c/p\>\n\u003cp align\u003d\"center\"\>______________________________\u003cWBR\>____ ______________________________\u003cWBR\>_____\u003c/p\>\n\u003cp align\u003d\"center\"\>______________________________\u003cWBR\>____ ______________________________\u003cWBR\>_____\u003c/p\>\n\u003cp align\u003d\"center\"\>\u003cfont color\u003d\"#400040\"\>List each situation that may cause you to relapse on the left and on the right, list a healthier way of dealing/coping with it. (You may list more than on way to cope for each situation.)\n\u003c/font\>\u003c/p\>\n\u003cp align\u003d\"center\"\>______________________________\u003cWBR\>____ ______________________________\u003cWBR\>_____\u003c/p\>\n\u003cp align\u003d\"center\"\>______________________________\u003cWBR\>____ ______________________________\u003cWBR\>_____\u003c/p\>\n\u003cp align\u003d\"center\"\>______________________________\u003cWBR\>____ ______________________________\u003cWBR\>_____\u003c/p\>\n\u003cp align\u003d\"center\"\>______________________________\u003cWBR\>____ ______________________________\u003cWBR\>_____\u003c/p\>\n\u003cp align\u003d\"center\"\>______________________________\u003cWBR\>____ ______________________________",1]
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Stress
Dealing with the underlying issues in therapy
Becoming overwhelmed by feelings and emotions
Death of a family member, friend, etc.
Marital and family problems
Feelings of loneliness, shame, guilt, anger, and abandonment.
People's reactions to changes you are making in your life
Fear of change and/or living without the eating disorder
These are a few things that can cause someone to have a slip or relapse. At the time, the person may be overwhelmed by any of the above and end up resorting to old methods of coping.
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Most people with eating disorders are very hard on themselves. Putting themselves down, calling themselves names, convincing themselves they are a failure, etc., are all things that can lead to slips and relapses. The section below will be a difficult one to complete, but it is important to try and change negative attitudes you have about yourself into positive ones.
On the left side, list the negative dialogue you use on yourself or hear. On the right side, challenge those same negative statements and replace them with positive ones. When you find yourself overwhelmed with negative thoughts, take out this list and practice telling yourself the positive ones. Even if at first you do not believe them, the more positive messages you give yourself, the more likely you are to start believing them.
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Whenever you find yourself making negative comments to yourself, be sure to pull out this list, write down the negative statement and turn it into a positive one. Try to do it each time you catch yourself being hard on yourself so that you do not spend the whole day, week, etc. with this negative thought going through your head. You do not deserve to put yourself down, you are a wonderful person and it is important that you learn how to love and respect yourself. By being able to take the negative statement and turn it into a positive one, you will be taking the necessary steps towards learning to love and accept yourself for who you are. The more positive messages you give yourself, the better you will start to feel about yourself.
In times of crisis, it can be difficult to remember healthy ways of coping. Many people in crisis do resort to familiar ways of coping. Making a plan ahead of time can be helpful. Make a list of 10 things you can do instead of using the eating disorders as a way to cope. After the list is completed, keep it in a place where it can be accessed when needed. (
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It is also important to reach out during times of crisis, when you are feeling scared, alone, out of control, etc. Talking about your feelings can help to relieve some of the anxiety that you may be having and can help to prevent a slip or relapse. Reaching out also helps to remind you that you are not alone. Below write down names and numbers of people you can reach out to. You may find it difficult to reach out, but the more you do it, the easier it will become. The person that you call will be glad that you did, will welcome the call, and be there for you the best way that they can.
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_____\u003c/p\>\n\u003cp align\u003d\"center\"\>______________________________\u003cWBR\>____ ______________________________\u003cWBR\>_____\u003c/p\>\n\u003cp align\u003d\"center\"\>______________________________\u003cWBR\>____ ______________________________\u003cWBR\>_____\u003c/p\>\n\u003cp align\u003d\"center\"\>______________________________\u003cWBR\>____ ______________________________\u003cWBR\>_____\u003c/p\>\n\u003cp align\u003d\"center\"\>______________________________\u003cWBR\>____ ______________________________\u003cWBR\>_____\u003c/p\>\n\u003cp align\u003d\"center\"\>______________________________\u003cWBR\>____ ______________________________\u003cWBR\>_____\u003c/p\>\n\u003cp align\u003d\"center\"\>______________________________\u003cWBR\>____ ______________________________\u003cWBR\>_____\u003cbr\>\u003c/p\>\n\u003cp\>\u003c/p\>\u003c/b\> \n\u003cp\>During the recovery process it is not always possible to avoid slips and relapses. Many people tend to be very hard on themselves if they do have a slip or relapse. It's important to remember that no one can recover perfectly. If you have a bad day, you can forgive yourself, put it behind you, and continue to move forward in your recovery. A good saying to remember is,\n\u003cb\> \u003c/b\>\u003cfont color\u003d\"#400040\"\>\u003cstrong\>"Yesterday is but a dream. Tomorrow a vision of hope. Look to this day for it is life."\u003c/strong\>\u003c/font\>\u003cb\> \u003c/b\>We cannot change yesterday so it is important not to dwell on what happened yesterday, we cannot spend time worrying about relapsing in the future, because we cannot predict the future. All any of us have is today and we must live for today. Do the best that you can and be proud of yourself for having the courage to continue to fight your eating disorder. It takes a lot of strength and courage to do that and that is something you can be proud of. If you do experience a slip or relapse, it is sometimes helpful to try and figure out why it happened. Below is a list of things that you can do if you experience a slip or relapse. \n\u003cul\>\n\u003cli\>Sit down and try to figure out how you were feeling before the slip/relapses occurred. \n\u003cli\>Write about how you felt before, during and after. \n",1]
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During the recovery process it is not always possible to avoid slips and relapses. Many people tend to be very hard on themselves if they do have a slip or relapse. It's important to remember that no one can recover perfectly. If you have a bad day, you can forgive yourself, put it behind you, and continue to move forward in your recovery. A good saying to remember is, "Yesterday is but a dream. Tomorrow a vision of hope. Look to this day for it is life." We cannot change yesterday so it is important not to dwell on what happened yesterday, we cannot spend time worrying about relapsing in the future, because we cannot predict the future. All any of us have is today and we must live for today. Do the best that you can and be proud of yourself for having the courage to continue to fight your eating disorder. It takes a lot of strength and courage to do that and that is something you can be proud of. If you do experience a slip or relapse, it is sometimes helpful to try and figure out why it happened. Below is a list of things that you can do if you experience a slip or relapse.
Sit down and try to figure out how you were feeling before the slip/relapses occurred.
Write about how you felt before, during and after.
Make a plan of how you will handle the situation, feelings, emotions, etc. when it happens again, but in a healthier way. \n\u003cli\>Call someone and talk about what happened and how you feel. (i.e. friend, therapist, family member, etc.) \n\u003cli\>Remind yourself that just because you had a slip/relapse, does not mean that you have failed. It only means that there are feelings inside that need to be dealt with. \n\u003cli\>Be gentle with yourself and do something nice for you. (i.e. soak in hot bath, take a nice walk, read a book, etc.) \n\u003cli\>Remember that there is no shame in having an eating disorder, there is no shame in having a slip or relapse and it is okay to reach out and talk about it \u003c/li\>\u003c/li\>\u003c/li\>\u003c/li\>\u003c/li\>\u003c/li\>\u003c/li\>\u003c/ul\>\u003cb\>\n\u003cp align\u003d\"center\"\>\u003cfont color\u003d\"#400040\"\>Below make a list of things that you can do to help yourself get past the feelings you may experience after having a slip or relapse:\u003c/font\>\u003c/p\>\n\u003cul\>\n\u003cli\>______________________________\u003cWBR\>______________________________\u003cWBR\>_________\u003cbr\>\u003cbr\>\n\u003cli\>______________________________\u003cWBR\>______________________________\u003cWBR\>_________\u003cbr\>\u003cbr\>\n\u003cli\>______________________________\u003cWBR\>______________________________\u003cWBR\>_________\u003cbr\>\u003cbr\>\n\u003cli\>______________________________\u003cWBR\>______________________________\u003cWBR\>_________\u003cbr\>\u003cbr\>\n\u003cli\>______________________________\u003cWBR\>______________________________\u003cWBR\>_________\u003cbr\>\u003cbr\>\n\u003cli\>______________________________\u003cWBR\>______________________________\u003cWBR\>_________\u003cbr\>\u003cbr\>\n\u003cli\>______________________________\u003cWBR\>______________________________\u003cWBR\>_________\u003cbr\>\u003cbr\>\n\u003cli\>______________________________\u003cWBR\>______________________________\u003cWBR\>_________ \u003c/li\>\u003c/li\>\u003c/li\>\u003c/li\>\u003c/li\>\u003c/li\>\u003c/li\>\u003c/li\>\u003c/ul\>\n\u003cp\>\u003c/p\>\u003c/b\> \u003c/p\>\n\u003cp\>Remember that you are not alone and even if you do have a slip or a relapse, you will get through it. Recovery takes time, but if you want to recover, you can and will. I hope that this relapse prevention plan will be a helpful tool for you in your recovery process. \n\u003c/p\>\n\u003cp\>The urge to binge can be caused by many different things. You may have had a stressful day at work, someone may have said something to hurt your feelings, you may be feeling lonely, etc. Whatever the reason, it's important that you have a plan to prevent the binge from taking place. A good idea would be to make up a list of "things to do" to help prevent you from bingeing. Keep the list handy so that it can be accessed whenever the urge to binge arises. Below I have listed a few alternatives to bingeing that you may find helpful and may want to include on your own list. \n",1]
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Make a plan of how you will handle the situation, feelings, emotions, etc. when it happens again, but in a healthier way.
Call someone and talk about what happened and how you feel. (i.e. friend, therapist, family member, etc.)
Remind yourself that just because you had a slip/relapse, does not mean that you have failed. It only means that there are feelings inside that need to be dealt with.
Be gentle with yourself and do something nice for you. (i.e. soak in hot bath, take a nice walk, read a book, etc.)
Remember that there is no shame in having an eating disorder, there is no shame in having a slip or relapse and it is okay to reach out and talk about it
Below make a list of things that you can do to help yourself get past the feelings you may experience after having a slip or relapse:
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Remember that you are not alone and even if you do have a slip or a relapse, you will get through it. Recovery takes time, but if you want to recover, you can and will. I hope that this relapse prevention plan will be a helpful tool for you in your recovery process.
The urge to binge can be caused by many different things. You may have had a stressful day at work, someone may have said something to hurt your feelings, you may be feeling lonely, etc. Whatever the reason, it's important that you have a plan to prevent the binge from taking place. A good idea would be to make up a list of "things to do" to help prevent you from bingeing. Keep the list handy so that it can be accessed whenever the urge to binge arises. Below I have listed a few alternatives to bingeing that you may find helpful and may want to include on your own list.
\n\u003cli\>Call a friend or your therapist and discuss what is happening.\u003cbr\>\u003cbr\>\n\u003cli\>Go for a walk or leave the environment that is tempting you to binge.\u003cbr\>\u003cbr\>\n\u003cli\>Write in your journal about how you are feeling at that moment.\u003cbr\>\u003cbr\>\n\u003cli\>Try to get your mind on something else. Watch T.V., read a book, do a puzzle, etc.\u003cbr\>\u003cbr\>\n\u003cli\>Sit down and try to figure out the real reasons why you want to binge.\u003cbr\>\u003cbr\>\n\u003cli\>Take a bath to relax or try some deep breathing exercises.\u003cbr\>\u003cbr\>\n\u003cli\>Make a list of foods you are planning to binge on, seal them in an envelope and throw it out or burn it.\u003cbr\>\u003cbr\>\n\u003cli\>Soak the binge food in water.\u003cbr\>\u003cbr\>\n\u003cli\>Put on some of your favorite music, shut yourself in your room and dance and sing to it with your eyes closed.\u003cbr\>\u003cbr\>\n\u003cli\>If you love music and have extra time, learn to play a few songs with an instrument and practice when you feel like bingeing.\u003cbr\>\u003cbr\>\n\u003cli\>Go into a church or chapel\u003cbr\>\u003cbr\>\n\u003cli\>Visit a friend\u003cbr\>\u003cbr\>\n\u003cli\>Do some crafts\u003cbr\>\u003cbr\>\n\u003cli\>Pamper yourself (i.e. polish your nails, get your hair done, get a massage, etc.)\u003cbr\>\u003cbr\>\n\u003cli\>Take a yoga or a stress relieving class.\u003cbr\>\u003cbr\>\n\u003cli\>Dream of your children laughing.\u003cbr\>\u003cbr\>\n\u003cli\>Write a page long letter to yourself about how you are a good and worthy person.\u003cbr\>\u003cbr\>\n\u003cli\>If you have a quote the gives you strength when you read it, recite it to yourself when you are feeling down.\u003cbr\>\u003cbr\>\n\u003cli\>Draw or color a picture of something powerful.\u003cbr\>\u003cbr\>\n\u003cli\>Flush the food you are planning to binge on down the toilet.\u003cbr\>\u003cbr\>\n\u003cli\>If you prevent a binge from occurring, calculate how much that binge would have cost. Put the money in a jar each time you succeed in not bingeing and use that money to do something special for yourself like getting a massage, buying a new outfit, etc.\n\u003cbr\>\u003cbr\>\n\u003cli\>Trying playing with you dog or petting your cat if you have a pet. If you do not have a pet you might want to think about whether or not you want one. Pets have proven to be very helpful in calming and comforting people. I would only recommend getting a pet if that is what a person really wants and is willing to take on the responsibility of having one.\n",1]
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Call a friend or your therapist and discuss what is happening.
Go for a walk or leave the environment that is tempting you to binge.
Write in your journal about how you are feeling at that moment.
Try to get your mind on something else. Watch T.V., read a book, do a puzzle, etc.
Sit down and try to figure out the real reasons why you want to binge.
Take a bath to relax or try some deep breathing exercises.
Make a list of foods you are planning to binge on, seal them in an envelope and throw it out or burn it.
Soak the binge food in water.
Put on some of your favorite music, shut yourself in your room and dance and sing to it with your eyes closed.
If you love music and have extra time, learn to play a few songs with an instrument and practice when you feel like bingeing.
Go into a church or chapel
Visit a friend
Do some crafts
Pamper yourself (i.e. polish your nails, get your hair done, get a massage, etc.)
Take a yoga or a stress relieving class.
Dream of your children laughing.
Write a page long letter to yourself about how you are a good and worthy person.
If you have a quote the gives you strength when you read it, recite it to yourself when you are feeling down.
Draw or color a picture of something powerful.
Flush the food you are planning to binge on down the toilet.
If you prevent a binge from occurring, calculate how much that binge would have cost. Put the money in a jar each time you succeed in not bingeing and use that money to do something special for yourself like getting a massage, buying a new outfit, etc.
Trying playing with you dog or petting your cat if you have a pet. If you do not have a pet you might want to think about whether or not you want one. Pets have proven to be very helpful in calming and comforting people. I would only recommend getting a pet if that is what a person really wants and is willing to take on the responsibility of having one.
\u003cbr\>\n\u003cli\>If you enjoying gardening, get involved in planting a garden, etc.\u003cbr\>\u003cbr\>\n\u003cli\>Rearrange or redecorate a room.\u003cbr\>\u003cbr\>\n\u003cli\>Shout at your eating disorder. If you are standing at the cupboard or refridgerator about to binge, slam the door and shout NO! Shouting at your eating disorder give you power.\u003cbr\>\u003cbr\>\n\u003cli\>If possible, make it so you are unable to plan a binge. For instance, if you live with someone, make sure they do not tell you when they will be coming home.\u003cbr\>\u003cbr\>\n\u003cli\>do some mild exercising like bike riding (but only short distances)\u003cbr\>\u003cbr\>\n\u003cli\>take the money you were about to buy binge food with and buy something for someone you care about. Spend time picking out the gift, writing a nice letter to the person and sending it - by the time that's done - the tide might have gone out.\n\u003c/li\>\u003c/li\>\u003c/li\>\u003c/li\>\u003c/li\>\u003c/li\>\u003c/li\>\u003c/li\>\u003c/li\>\u003c/li\>\u003c/li\>\u003c/li\>\u003c/li\>\u003c/li\>\u003c/li\>\u003c/li\>\u003c/li\>\u003c/li\>\u003c/li\>\u003c/li\>\u003c/li\>\u003c/li\>\u003c/li\>\u003c/li\>\u003c/li\>\u003c/li\>\u003c/li\>\u003c/li\>\u003c/ul\>\n\u003cp\>Not only is it important to deal with the underlying issues causing the eating disorder, it is also important to work towards developing a healthy eating pattern. Many people are afraid to start eating normally for fear that once they start eating, they won't be able to stop. This won't happen. Beginning to eat normally takes time and it should be done slowly so that you don't start to panic and lose control. Your ultimate goal will be to learn to eat 3 non-dieting meals and 2-3 snacks per day. Carbohydrates such as cereals, pasta, rice, bread, fruit and vegetables should make up 50-60% of your total daily intake. Fat is also an essential nutrient and should make up about 25% of your total daily intake. Proteins such as eggs, red meats, dairy products and poultry should make up about 10-15% of your total daily intake. A qualified nutritionist can help you to gradually develop a healthy eating pattern. Below is a list of suggestions that might help when trying to return to normal eating. \n\u003cul\>\n\u003cli\>If you are anorexic, try eating 6-8 small meals per day. Small meals will be easier to eat then 3 normal meals. Small meals will not leave you feeling quite so bloated and full. It is important to remember that in the beginning, you will experience bloating that can be uncomfortable. Many think this is a sign they are becoming fat, but it is natural for this to happen. It is only temporary and can last from 6 - 8 weeks. Instead of thinking of the bloating as you becoming fat, remind yourself that it is a part of the refeeding process and it is a sign that your body is healing. \n",1]
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If you enjoying gardening, get involved in planting a garden, etc.
Rearrange or redecorate a room.
Shout at your eating disorder. If you are standing at the cupboard or refridgerator about to binge, slam the door and shout NO! Shouting at your eating disorder give you power.
If possible, make it so you are unable to plan a binge. For instance, if you live with someone, make sure they do not tell you when they will be coming home.
do some mild exercising like bike riding (but only short distances)
take the money you were about to buy binge food with and buy something for someone you care about. Spend time picking out the gift, writing a nice letter to the person and sending it - by the time that's done - the tide might have gone out.
Not only is it important to deal with the underlying issues causing the eating disorder, it is also important to work towards developing a healthy eating pattern. Many people are afraid to start eating normally for fear that once they start eating, they won't be able to stop. This won't happen. Beginning to eat normally takes time and it should be done slowly so that you don't start to panic and lose control. Your ultimate goal will be to learn to eat 3 non-dieting meals and 2-3 snacks per day. Carbohydrates such as cereals, pasta, rice, bread, fruit and vegetables should make up 50-60% of your total daily intake. Fat is also an essential nutrient and should make up about 25% of your total daily intake. Proteins such as eggs, red meats, dairy products and poultry should make up about 10-15% of your total daily intake. A qualified nutritionist can help you to gradually develop a healthy eating pattern. Below is a list of suggestions that might help when trying to return to normal eating.
If you are anorexic, try eating 6-8 small meals per day. Small meals will be easier to eat then 3 normal meals. Small meals will not leave you feeling quite so bloated and full. It is important to remember that in the beginning, you will experience bloating that can be uncomfortable. Many think this is a sign they are becoming fat, but it is natural for this to happen. It is only temporary and can last from 6 - 8 weeks. Instead of thinking of the bloating as you becoming fat, remind yourself that it is a part of the refeeding process and it is a sign that your body is healing.
\u003c/ul\>\n\u003cul\>\n\u003cli\>If you are bulimic or a compulsive eater, try eating 3 non-dieting meals and 3 snacks each day. Try to eat them at the same time each day. You may find it beneficial to follow a meal plan in the beginning so that you will know what you will be eating in advance. Do not allow yourself to eat more than planned. Eating more could lead to feelings of "I've blown it" and may cause you to binge or purge. \n\u003c/li\>\u003c/ul\>\n\u003cul\>\n\u003cli\>In the beginning try to avoid foods that tend to trigger a binge or cause you to much feelings of guilt after eating. Later on you can reintroduce those foods into your meals.\u003cbr\>\n\u003cli\>If anorexic, you may wish to begin the refeeding process with foods that will be easier to digest. (i.e. applesauce, mashed potatoes, macaroni & cheese, oatmeal, etc.) Once the body starts to get used to having food, you can then begin to introduce more solid foods. \n\u003c/li\>\u003c/li\>\u003c/ul\>\n\u003cul\>\n\u003cli\>Throw out your scale. Scales can prevent you from your reaching your goal of healthy eating. Also, it is important to remember that you are not a number and that number on the scale can never change the wonderful person you are inside. \n\u003c/li\>\u003c/ul\>\n\u003cul\>\n\u003cli\>After eating, try and distract yourself with an activity you enjoy or if you feel very uncomfortable, try deep breathing exercises. \u003c/li\>\u003c/ul\>\n\u003cul\>\n\u003cli\>Stop counting calories. Counting calories will prevent your from eating normally. Concentrate on learning about what normal eating is. Sometimes watching others eat can help to show us what normal eating really is. \u003c/li\>\n\u003c/ul\>\n\u003cul\>\n\u003cli\>Start living one day at a time and one meal at a time. \u003c/li\>\u003c/ul\>\n\u003cul\>\n\u003cli\>Sometimes it helps to think of food as medicine. You may not want to take it, but it is necessary for you to eat it, in order to recover. You can also think of food as fuel. Your body needs that fuel in order to be able to function properly. \n\u003c/li\>\u003c/ul\>\n\u003cul\>\n\u003cli\>Remember that the voice in your head is lying to you. You need to do the opposite of what it tells you. If it tells you not to eat, go against it and eat. By doing this, you will be able to start taking back the control the eating disorder has. Many people believe that if they don't eat, they are the ones in control. The reality is, if you do not allow yourself to eat, the eating disorder is the one controlling you. \n",1]
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If you are bulimic or a compulsive eater, try eating 3 non-dieting meals and 3 snacks each day. Try to eat them at the same time each day. You may find it beneficial to follow a meal plan in the beginning so that you will know what you will be eating in advance. Do not allow yourself to eat more than planned. Eating more could lead to feelings of "I've blown it" and may cause you to binge or purge.
In the beginning try to avoid foods that tend to trigger a binge or cause you to much feelings of guilt after eating. Later on you can reintroduce those foods into your meals.
If anorexic, you may wish to begin the refeeding process with foods that will be easier to digest. (i.e. applesauce, mashed potatoes, macaroni & cheese, oatmeal, etc.) Once the body starts to get used to having food, you can then begin to introduce more solid foods.
Throw out your scale. Scales can prevent you from your reaching your goal of healthy eating. Also, it is important to remember that you are not a number and that number on the scale can never change the wonderful person you are inside.
After eating, try and distract yourself with an activity you enjoy or if you feel very uncomfortable, try deep breathing exercises.
Stop counting calories. Counting calories will prevent your from eating normally. Concentrate on learning about what normal eating is. Sometimes watching others eat can help to show us what normal eating really is.
Start living one day at a time and one meal at a time.
Sometimes it helps to think of food as medicine. You may not want to take it, but it is necessary for you to eat it, in order to recover. You can also think of food as fuel. Your body needs that fuel in order to be able to function properly.
Remember that the voice in your head is lying to you. You need to do the opposite of what it tells you. If it tells you not to eat, go against it and eat. By doing this, you will be able to start taking back the control the eating disorder has. Many people believe that if they don't eat, they are the ones in control. The reality is, if you do not allow yourself to eat, the eating disorder is the one controlling you.
\u003c/ul\>\n\u003cul\>\n\u003cli\>If you exercise excessively, try to slowly cut back. \u003c/li\>\u003c/ul\>\n\u003cul\>\n\u003cli\>In the beginning practice "mechanical eating." This means to eat your meals at predetermined times, whether you are hungry or not. The physiological mechanisms that signal hunger and fullness may not be functioning properly. In time, these signals will return, allowing you to know when you are hungry and when you are full. \n\u003c/li\>\u003c/ul\>\n\u003cul\>\n\u003cli\>Remind yourself constantly that NO food will make you fat, as long as it is eaten in moderation. \u003c/li\>\u003c/ul\>\n\u003cul\>\n\u003cli\>Stop buying "diet" foods. Buy foods that you would like to eat, do not buy them because they are low in calories. \u003c/li\>\u003c/ul\>\n\u003cp\>Normal eating does take time and it should be done slowly so that you do not become too overwhelmed. It does take a lot of hard work in the beginning, but in time it will become a normal part of your day.\u003c/p\>\n\u003cp\>\n\u003ctable width\u003d\"600\" border\u003d\"0\"\>\n\u003ctbody\>\n\u003ctr\>\n\u003ctd\>\n\u003cdiv\>One thing many people, not just victims of eating disorders, have trouble accepting, is the set point theory. Set point is the weight range in which your body is programmed to weigh and will fight to maintain that weight.\n\u003c/div\>\n\u003cdiv\>Everyone has a set point and just like you have no control over how tall you will be, or what color your eyes and hair will be, you also have no control over what your set point will be. Your body is biologically and genetically determined to weigh within a certain weight range.\n\u003c/div\>\n\u003cdiv\>Set points vary for each individual person. That is why it's not a good idea to go by the weight charts that you see in medical books or hanging in your doctor's office. For instance, a woman at a height of 5'5" with a small frame may have a set point range between 120-130 lbs, but another woman with the same frame may have a set point range between 130-140 lbs. Their set points may be different, but that is the weight range where their bodies will fight to maintain.\n\u003c/div\>\n\u003cdiv\>Everyone that has ever tried dieting knows just how hard it is to lose weight and keep it off. In the first few weeks of dieting, weight is usually lost, but almost always gained back. Many people become frustrated because after a few weeks of dieting, they usually stop losing weight or start gaining it back, even though they are still restricting their food intake. That is a sign that the body is trying to fight to retain it's natural weight.\n",1]
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If you exercise excessively, try to slowly cut back.
In the beginning practice "mechanical eating." This means to eat your meals at predetermined times, whether you are hungry or not. The physiological mechanisms that signal hunger and fullness may not be functioning properly. In time, these signals will return, allowing you to know when you are hungry and when you are full.
Remind yourself constantly that NO food will make you fat, as long as it is eaten in moderation.
Stop buying "diet" foods. Buy foods that you would like to eat, do not buy them because they are low in calories.
Normal eating does take time and it should be done slowly so that you do not become too overwhelmed. It does take a lot of hard work in the beginning, but in time it will become a normal part of your day.
One thing many people, not just victims of eating disorders, have trouble accepting, is the set point theory. Set point is the weight range in which your body is programmed to weigh and will fight to maintain that weight.
Everyone has a set point and just like you have no control over how tall you will be, or what color your eyes and hair will be, you also have no control over what your set point will be. Your body is biologically and genetically determined to weigh within a certain weight range.
Set points vary for each individual person. That is why it's not a good idea to go by the weight charts that you see in medical books or hanging in your doctor's office. For instance, a woman at a height of 5'5" with a small frame may have a set point range between 120-130 lbs, but another woman with the same frame may have a set point range between 130-140 lbs. Their set points may be different, but that is the weight range where their bodies will fight to maintain.
Everyone that has ever tried dieting knows just how hard it is to lose weight and keep it off. In the first few weeks of dieting, weight is usually lost, but almost always gained back. Many people become frustrated because after a few weeks of dieting, they usually stop losing weight or start gaining it back, even though they are still restricting their food intake. That is a sign that the body is trying to fight to retain it's natural weight.
\n\u003cdiv\>When you go below your body's natural set point, your metabolism will react and start to slow down to try and conserve energy. Your body will start to sense it's in a state of semi-starvation and will try to use the few calories it receives more effectively. You may start to sleep more, your body temperature will drop, which is why you hear so many anorexics complaining of being so cold, and after too much weight loss many women experience the loss of their menstrual cycle. Basically their reproductive system shuts down because their bodies probably could not handle a pregnancy. Many people that are dieting also experience uncontrollable urges to binge. That is because your body is telling you that it needs more food than you are providing it to function properly.\n\u003c/div\>\n\u003cdiv\>Just as your metabolism will slow down when you go under your body's set point, it will also increase if you go above it. The body will try to fight against the weight gain by increasing the metabolism and raising the body's temperature to try and burn off the unwanted calories.\n\u003c/div\>\n\u003cdiv\>There is no test available to tell you what your body's natural set point is. The best way to determine what it is, is by eating normally and exercising moderately. If you have been dieting for years, it can take up to a year of normal eating for your body's metabolism to function properly and return you to the weight range that is healthy for you.\n\u003c/div\>\n\u003cdiv\>Learning to accept the fact that your body needs to be at a certain weight is a good way to stop the vicious cycles of dieting. The more you try to go below your body's set point range, the harder your body will fight to retain it's natural weight. Engaging in a healthy eating and exercise routine, will allow your body to go to the weight it wants and needs to be at. Learning to love and accept who you are, will help you to accept your body's natural set point. It is unfortunate that we live in a society that is obsessed with thinness, but we have to stop believing that thinness equals happiness. What everyone needs to do is stop judging people by how they look. If we can all accept each other for who we are, no matter what size we are, people will be much happier. Except, of course, for the diet industry, because they would be finally out of business.\n",1]
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When you go below your body's natural set point, your metabolism will react and start to slow down to try and conserve energy. Your body will start to sense it's in a state of semi-starvation and will try to use the few calories it receives more effectively. You may start to sleep more, your body temperature will drop, which is why you hear so many anorexics complaining of being so cold, and after too much weight loss many women experience the loss of their menstrual cycle. Basically their reproductive system shuts down because their bodies probably could not handle a pregnancy. Many people that are dieting also experience uncontrollable urges to binge. That is because your body is telling you that it needs more food than you are providing it to function properly.
Just as your metabolism will slow down when you go under your body's set point, it will also increase if you go above it. The body will try to fight against the weight gain by increasing the metabolism and raising the body's temperature to try and burn off the unwanted calories.
There is no test available to tell you what your body's natural set point is. The best way to determine what it is, is by eating normally and exercising moderately. If you have been dieting for years, it can take up to a year of normal eating for your body's metabolism to function properly and return you to the weight range that is healthy for you.
Learning to accept the fact that your body needs to be at a certain weight is a good way to stop the vicious cycles of dieting. The more you try to go below your body's set point range, the harder your body will fight to retain it's natural weight. Engaging in a healthy eating and exercise routine, will allow your body to go to the weight it wants and needs to be at. Learning to love and accept who you are, will help you to accept your body's natural set point. It is unfortunate that we live in a society that is obsessed with thinness, but we have to stop believing that thinness equals happiness. What everyone needs to do is stop judging people by how they look. If we can all accept each other for who we are, no matter what size we are, people will be much happier. Except, of course, for the diet industry, because they would be finally out of business.
\u003c/td\>\u003c/tr\>\u003c/tbody\>\u003c/table\>\u003c/p\>\n\u003cp\>For many people the holidays are a time of joy and celebration. It is a time to gather with family and friends, get caught up on each others lives, share a few laughs, and many look forward to sitting down and enjoying the traditional holiday feast. For people with eating disorders, the holidays are not quite so enjoyable. In fact, they can be the ultimate nightmare. For many, the holidays bring tremendous stress, anxiety, and fear. I would usually begin preparing for the up and coming holidays a few weeks in advance. I always felt that if I lost a few pounds before the holidays, then I would be able to allow myself to eat like everyone else. Of course, that never happened. I had never been able to truly enjoy any holidays because of the fear I had of all the food that was present. Whether it was Christmas, Easter or any other holiday, I could never relax and enjoy the day because I knew the moment would arrive when I would have to sit down at the table and face all that food. Usually with my in-laws I could get away with not eating very much. I especially liked having people over to my house, because I could keep busy in the kitchen and spend less time at the table. When I was with my own family, I would sit and eat with everyone else, but the meal was never enjoyed because my head was always too busy adding up all the calories in my head and the fear of getting fat would grow stronger with each bite of food. I always looked forward to the moment I could leave, so that I could rush home and purge. The days following the holidays were just as bad. The guilt I would feel was enormous and I would feel desperate to try and make up for all the calories I had consumed. I would really restrict my intake and I would exercise more. Holidays were a time that I just never looked forward to.\n\u003c/p\>\n\u003cp\>For other people, food is not the only thing that makes them dread the holidays. Being around family members may also cause a lot of stress, especially if the families tend to fight a lot or drink too much. The holidays may bring up painful memories from past holidays. You may also have to be around certain family members who make you uncomfortable or who you do not particularly like. If the families are also aware of your eating disorder, you may be subjected to comments about what you are or are not eating. You may feel pressured into eating more than you are comfortable with in order to please the people around you.\n",1]
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For many people the holidays are a time of joy and celebration. It is a time to gather with family and friends, get caught up on each others lives, share a few laughs, and many look forward to sitting down and enjoying the traditional holiday feast. For people with eating disorders, the holidays are not quite so enjoyable. In fact, they can be the ultimate nightmare. For many, the holidays bring tremendous stress, anxiety, and fear. I would usually begin preparing for the up and coming holidays a few weeks in advance. I always felt that if I lost a few pounds before the holidays, then I would be able to allow myself to eat like everyone else. Of course, that never happened. I had never been able to truly enjoy any holidays because of the fear I had of all the food that was present. Whether it was Christmas, Easter or any other holiday, I could never relax and enjoy the day because I knew the moment would arrive when I would have to sit down at the table and face all that food. Usually with my in-laws I could get away with not eating very much. I especially liked having people over to my house, because I could keep busy in the kitchen and spend less time at the table. When I was with my own family, I would sit and eat with everyone else, but the meal was never enjoyed because my head was always too busy adding up all the calories in my head and the fear of getting fat would grow stronger with each bite of food. I always looked forward to the moment I could leave, so that I could rush home and purge. The days following the holidays were just as bad. The guilt I would feel was enormous and I would feel desperate to try and make up for all the calories I had consumed. I would really restrict my intake and I would exercise more. Holidays were a time that I just never looked forward to.
For other people, food is not the only thing that makes them dread the holidays. Being around family members may also cause a lot of stress, especially if the families tend to fight a lot or drink too much. The holidays may bring up painful memories from past holidays. You may also have to be around certain family members who make you uncomfortable or who you do not particularly like. If the families are also aware of your eating disorder, you may be subjected to comments about what you are or are not eating. You may feel pressured into eating more than you are comfortable with in order to please the people around you.
\n\u003cp\>I do not think I have ever met anyone with an eating disorder that really looks forward to the holidays. Making a plan of what you will do ahead of time, may be a good idea to help you cope during these stressful times. Below is a list of a few things that may help you during the holidays: \n\u003cul\>\n\u003cli\>Make a list of things you can do to help relax and distract yourself from the feelings of fullness after a big meal. e.g. go for a walk, take a bath, read, visit a friend, go for a drive, etc. \n\u003cli\>Have the phone numbers of friends and crisis lines available to you. \n\u003cli\>If you have to be at a function with certain people who make you uncomfortable, plan ways to excuse yourself from their immediate presence. \n\u003cli\>Try not to count calories and try to avoid the scale. \n\u003cli\>If you feel yourself starting to panic because you are feeling too full or if you allowed yourself to eat foods that you consider to be forbidden, remind yourself it is okay to eat what you did, that food will not make you fat, and it is only normal to eat more during the holidays. Most people do and it really is okay. \n\u003cli\>If you have a period where you end up bingeing or purging, do not beat yourself up over it. Just put it behind you and move forward. \n\u003cli\>Prepare responses to make to people who may say something to you that would make you uncomfortable. \n\u003cli\>If you feel you need to, set some boundaries for yourself by telling people ahead of time that you do not want anyone to comment on your appearance or your eating. \n\u003cli\>Be sure to plan some time for yourself to do something that you enjoy. It is very important to take special care of yourself during the holidays. \u003c/li\>\u003c/li\>\u003c/li\>\u003c/li\>\u003c/li\>\u003c/li\>\u003c/li\>\u003c/li\>\u003c/li\>\u003c/ul\>\n\u003cp\>I really do believe that you need to do what is right for you during these times. Do not allow anyone to pressure you into eating more than you can handle. You are not eating for them, you are eating for yourself. If being with certain family members or going home for the holidays is too stressful, you may have to seriously think about not going. Do not be afraid to disappoint people by not showing up and if you can, be honest about why you will not be attending. Holidays are a very stressful time for people with eating disorders and it really is important that you do whatever you need to do in order to make them easier on yourself.\n",1]
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I do not think I have ever met anyone with an eating disorder that really looks forward to the holidays. Making a plan of what you will do ahead of time, may be a good idea to help you cope during these stressful times. Below is a list of a few things that may help you during the holidays:
Make a list of things you can do to help relax and distract yourself from the feelings of fullness after a big meal. e.g. go for a walk, take a bath, read, visit a friend, go for a drive, etc.
Have the phone numbers of friends and crisis lines available to you.
If you have to be at a function with certain people who make you uncomfortable, plan ways to excuse yourself from their immediate presence.
Try not to count calories and try to avoid the scale.
If you feel yourself starting to panic because you are feeling too full or if you allowed yourself to eat foods that you consider to be forbidden, remind yourself it is okay to eat what you did, that food will not make you fat, and it is only normal to eat more during the holidays. Most people do and it really is okay.
If you have a period where you end up bingeing or purging, do not beat yourself up over it. Just put it behind you and move forward.
Prepare responses to make to people who may say something to you that would make you uncomfortable.
If you feel you need to, set some boundaries for yourself by telling people ahead of time that you do not want anyone to comment on your appearance or your eating.
Be sure to plan some time for yourself to do something that you enjoy. It is very important to take special care of yourself during the holidays.
I really do believe that you need to do what is right for you during these times. Do not allow anyone to pressure you into eating more than you can handle. You are not eating for them, you are eating for yourself. If being with certain family members or going home for the holidays is too stressful, you may have to seriously think about not going. Do not be afraid to disappoint people by not showing up and if you can, be honest about why you will not be attending. Holidays are a very stressful time for people with eating disorders and it really is important that you do whatever you need to do in order to make them easier on yourself.
\n\u003cp\>I no longer get stressed out during the holidays, except of course for the last minute rush of holiday shoppers, but I do not experience anxiety about the meals. Recovery took time and enjoying holidays did not come easy, but I no longer dread Santa's yearly visit nor fantasize about killing the Easter bunny. As long as you keep fighting and never give up, food will no longer prevent you from enjoying the holidays. You will be able to think of them as a time to gather with loved ones, you can make your own special memories, and you may even be able to start looking forward to them. So whatever holiday is approaching, I wish you all the best and I hope that you all have a very Happy Holiday.\n\u003c/p\>\n\u003cp\>\u003cfont color\u003d\"#004000\"\>\u003cstrong\>I would like to thank Sharon Sward for giving me permission to include the below "Happy Holidays" in this section.\u003c/strong\>\u003c/font\>\u003c/p\>\n\u003cp align\u003d\"left\"\>\u003cb\>\u003cfont color\u003d\"#004000\" size\u003d\"4\"\>\u003cem\>HAPPY HOLIDAYS\u003c/em\>\u003c/font\>\u003c/b\>\u003c/p\>\u003cfont size\u003d\"4\"\>\n\u003cp align\u003d\"left\"\>\u003cfont color\u003d\"#004000\"\>\u003cem\>(What if:)\u003c/em\>\u003c/font\>\u003c/p\>\u003c/font\>\u003c/p\>\u003cfont size\u003d\"5\"\>\u003ci\>\n\u003cp align\u003d\"left\"\>\u003cfont color\u003d\"#004000\"\>H\u003c/font\>\u003c/p\>\u003c/i\> \u003c/font\>unger means you eat when physically hungry instead of emotionally hungry. \u003c/p\>\n\u003cp align\u003d\"left\"\>\u003cfont size\u003d\"5\"\>\u003cb\>\u003cfont color\u003d\"#004000\"\>\u003ci\>A\u003c/i\>\u003c/font\> \u003c/b\>\u003c/font\>ttitudes about your size has to with the size of your heart instead of the size of your body.\u003c/p\>\u003cfont size\u003d\"5\"\>\u003cb\>\u003ci\>\n\u003cp align\u003d\"left\"\>\u003cfont color\u003d\"#004000\"\>P\u003c/font\>\u003c/p\>\u003c/i\> \u003c/b\>\u003c/font\>arents accept and value you for who you are, not according to how you look.\u003c/p\>\u003cfont size\u003d\"5\"\>\u003ci\>\u003cb\>\n\u003cp align\u003d\"left\"\>\u003cfont color\u003d\"#004000\"\>P \u003c/font\>\u003c/p\>\u003c/b\>\u003c/i\>\u003c/font\>roblems are resolved in ways other than stuffing your feelings with food.\u003cfont size\u003d\"5\"\>\u003cb\>\u003ci\>\n\u003cp align\u003d\"left\"\>\u003cfont color\u003d\"#004000\"\>Y\u003c/font\>\u003c/p\>\u003c/i\> \u003c/b\>\u003c/font\>ou spend as much time and energy on helping others, as you do on how you look. \n\u003cp align\u003d\"left\"\> \u003c/p\>\n\u003cp align\u003d\"left\"\>\u003cfont size\u003d\"5\"\>\u003cb\>\u003cfont color\u003d\"#004000\"\>\u003ci\>H\u003c/i\>\u003c/font\> \u003c/b\>\u003c/font\>appiness comes from within rather than from expectations of others.",1]
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I no longer get stressed out during the holidays, except of course for the last minute rush of holiday shoppers, but I do not experience anxiety about the meals. Recovery took time and enjoying holidays did not come easy, but I no longer dread Santa's yearly visit nor fantasize about killing the Easter bunny. As long as you keep fighting and never give up, food will no longer prevent you from enjoying the holidays. You will be able to think of them as a time to gather with loved ones, you can make your own special memories, and you may even be able to start looking forward to them. So whatever holiday is approaching, I wish you all the best and I hope that you all have a very Happy Holiday.
I would like to thank Sharon Sward for giving me permission to include the below "Happy Holidays" in this section.
HAPPY HOLIDAYS
(What if:)
Hunger means you eat when physically hungry instead of emotionally hungry.
A ttitudes about your size has to with the size of your heart instead of the size of your body.
Parents accept and value you for who you are, not according to how you look.
P roblems are resolved in ways other than stuffing your feelings with food.
You spend as much time and energy on helping others, as you do on how you look.
H appiness comes from within rather than from expectations of others.
\u003cfont size\u003d\"5\"\>\u003ci\>\u003cb\>\n\u003cp align\u003d\"left\"\>\u003cfont color\u003d\"#004000\"\>O\u003c/font\> \u003c/p\>\u003c/b\>\u003c/i\>\u003c/font\>ccasions for the holidays emphasize relating to others instead of emphasizing food.\u003cfont size\u003d\"5\"\>\u003cb\>\u003ci\>\n\u003cp align\u003d\"left\"\>\u003cfont color\u003d\"#004000\"\>L\u003c/font\>\u003c/p\>\u003c/i\> \u003c/b\>\u003c/font\>ove of self means you deserve to treat yourself in the best humanly possible way.\u003cfont size\u003d\"5\"\>\u003cb\>\u003ci\>\n\u003cp align\u003d\"left\"\>\u003cfont color\u003d\"#004000\"\>I\u003c/font\>\u003c/p\>\u003c/i\> \u003c/b\>\u003c/font\>\u003cfont color\u003d\"#004000\"\>\u003c/font\>dentity of self involves more than how you look.\u003cfont size\u003d\"5\"\>\u003cb\>\u003ci\>\n\u003cp align\u003d\"left\"\>\u003cfont color\u003d\"#004000\"\>D\u003c/font\>\u003c/p\>\u003c/i\> \u003c/b\>\u003c/font\>isapproval of self is changed to approval of who you are.\u003cfont size\u003d\"5\"\>\u003cb\>\u003ci\>\n\u003cp align\u003d\"left\"\>\u003cfont color\u003d\"#004000\"\>A\u003c/font\>\u003c/p\>\u003c/i\> \u003c/b\>\u003c/font\>cceptance of what one can not change includes your body features.\u003cfont size\u003d\"5\"\>\u003cb\>\u003ci\>\n\u003cp align\u003d\"left\"\>\u003cfont color\u003d\"#004000\"\>Y\u003c/font\>\u003c/p\>\u003c/i\> \u003c/b\>\u003c/font\>ou treat yourself as you treat your best friend.\u003cfont size\u003d\"5\"\>\u003cb\>\u003ci\>\n\u003cp align\u003d\"left\"\>\u003cfont color\u003d\"#004000\"\>S\u003c/font\>\u003c/p\>\u003c/i\> \u003c/b\>\u003c/font\>ociety values you for being you without emphasis to your weight or size\n\u003ch2 align\u003d\"center\"\>\u003csmall\>\u003cfont color\u003d\"#003500\"\>\u003cstrong\>A LETTER OF HOPE - RECOVERY IS POSSIBLE\u003c/strong\>\u003c/font\>\u003c/small\>\u003c/h2\>\n\u003cdiv align\u003d\"center\"\>\n\u003ctable width\u003d\"600\" border\u003d\"0\"\>\n\u003ctbody\>\n\u003ctr\>\n\u003ctd\>\n\u003cp align\u003d\"left\"\> \u003c/p\>\n\u003cp align\u003d\"left\"\>To All Victims of Eating Disorders,\u003c/p\>\n\u003cp align\u003d\"left\"\>The first step towards recovery is admitting that you have an eating disorder. If you have been able to do that, you should be really proud of yourself, because it is not an easy thing to do. It is important to remember that recovering from an eating disorder does take a lot of hard work and time. You did not develop your eating disorder over night, and it will not go away that quickly either. Recovery can happen and it will, as long as you want it.\n\u003c/p\>\n\u003cp align\u003d\"left\"\>On your journey to recovery you will experience good days and bad days. Imagine that you are on a roller coaster ride. You will have a lot of ups and downs, but when the ride comes to its final stop, you will feel an inner peace and you will be free.\n",1]
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O ccasions for the holidays emphasize relating to others instead of emphasizing food.
Love of self means you deserve to treat yourself in the best humanly possible way.
Identity of self involves more than how you look.
Disapproval of self is changed to approval of who you are.
Acceptance of what one can not change includes your body features.
You treat yourself as you treat your best friend.
Society values you for being you without emphasis to your weight or size
A LETTER OF HOPE - RECOVERY IS POSSIBLE
To All Victims of Eating Disorders,
The first step towards recovery is admitting that you have an eating disorder. If you have been able to do that, you should be really proud of yourself, because it is not an easy thing to do. It is important to remember that recovering from an eating disorder does take a lot of hard work and time. You did not develop your eating disorder over night, and it will not go away that quickly either. Recovery can happen and it will, as long as you want it.
On your journey to recovery you will experience good days and bad days. Imagine that you are on a roller coaster ride. You will have a lot of ups and downs, but when the ride comes to its final stop, you will feel an inner peace and you will be free.
\n\u003cp align\u003d\"left\"\>On the days when you feel trapped, hopeless and feel like giving up, those are the days you need to fight even harder. Never give up, because recovery is worth fighting for. Those inner voices can become very loud at times, but you do have the choice not to listen to them. Remember that those voices are only lying to you, and if you continue to listen to them, they will destroy you. You are stronger than those voices and you can go against them. The more you go against them, the weaker they will become. Each time you do succeed and ignore those voices, you are another step closer to recovery.\n\u003c/p\>\n\u003cp align\u003d\"left\"\>It is very important that you do seek help and support during your recovery. No one can do this alone and it is okay to ask for help. I tried for a long time to overcome my eating disorder on my own, but it just is not possible. Many of us find it difficult to seek help or feel too ashamed to admit to another person that we have an eating disorder. There is no shame in having an eating disorder and there is help available. You need someone to help you deal with and come to terms with the underlying issues that are causing you to do this to yourself. It's not easy to open up to someone and talk about how you are feeling, but it is necessary. I was always the type of person who kept everything to myself because I didn't want to bother anyone with my problems, but now that I have started talking, I feel like a big weight is being lifted off my shoulders. I still find it difficult to reveal my true feelings, and it can be scary at times, but I continue to do so, because I know it's what I have to do in order to free myself from my eating disorder. I personally feel, you have to heal the mind, before you can totally heal the body. Each day I continue to try my hardest to provide my body with the nutrition it needs and deserves. I don't always succeed, but I continue trying. I know that I will probably never be truly at peace with food and my body, until I deal with the issues that caused me to do this to myself and until I learn how to love and accept myself.\n",1]
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On the days when you feel trapped, hopeless and feel like giving up, those are the days you need to fight even harder. Never give up, because recovery is worth fighting for. Those inner voices can become very loud at times, but you do have the choice not to listen to them. Remember that those voices are only lying to you, and if you continue to listen to them, they will destroy you. You are stronger than those voices and you can go against them. The more you go against them, the weaker they will become. Each time you do succeed and ignore those voices, you are another step closer to recovery.
It is very important that you do seek help and support during your recovery. No one can do this alone and it is okay to ask for help. I tried for a long time to overcome my eating disorder on my own, but it just is not possible. Many of us find it difficult to seek help or feel too ashamed to admit to another person that we have an eating disorder. There is no shame in having an eating disorder and there is help available. You need someone to help you deal with and come to terms with the underlying issues that are causing you to do this to yourself. It's not easy to open up to someone and talk about how you are feeling, but it is necessary. I was always the type of person who kept everything to myself because I didn't want to bother anyone with my problems, but now that I have started talking, I feel like a big weight is being lifted off my shoulders. I still find it difficult to reveal my true feelings, and it can be scary at times, but I continue to do so, because I know it's what I have to do in order to free myself from my eating disorder. I personally feel, you have to heal the mind, before you can totally heal the body. Each day I continue to try my hardest to provide my body with the nutrition it needs and deserves. I don't always succeed, but I continue trying. I know that I will probably never be truly at peace with food and my body, until I deal with the issues that caused me to do this to myself and until I learn how to love and accept myself.
\n\u003cp align\u003d\"left\"\>Thinking about living a life without your eating disorder can be frightening. You may wonder how you will live without it. When I first started receiving help, I was afraid to let go of it, because I didn't believe I could live without it. Even though I was afraid to live without it, deep down I knew that I could not survive with it. I wanted to live, which meant I really had to start fighting to make that happen. I also needed to remind myself that I could not recover perfectly and I needed to stop trying to. Every time I had a slip, I would get so angry with myself and I would end up punishing myself more. During recovery you will probably experience periods of relapse. It's natural for this to happen and it's to be expected. Don't get angry with yourself and don't dwell on it. Instead, remind yourself of all the positive things you have done and all the progress you have made. You can also learn from those relapses, and in the long run, they will make you stronger.\n\u003c/p\>\n\u003cp align\u003d\"left\"\>I have suffered from an eating disorder for twenty years and although I'm not totally recovered, and still have a ways to go, I have come a long way and I am confident that one day I will be totally freed from this eating disorder that has robbed me of so many precious years of my life. Looking back over the years, it sometimes amazes that I'm still alive, but I am very grateful to be alive, because I know that so many other people weren't as fortunate as I am. Those negative voices are still present, but I have chosen not to listen to them and I go against them daily, and so can you. I've also been blessed with a wonderful support system. I have a loving husband, family, and friends. I have been fortunate to meet many wonderful people through the internet that also suffer from an eating disorder. I have support from a family doctor who takes special care of me, and last, but certainly not least, I have the support from a wonderful therapist. He encourages me, supports me and most importantly, he listens to me. He has never given up on me and he believes in me. If it wasn't for him, I would have given up on myself a long time ago.\n",1]
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Thinking about living a life without your eating disorder can be frightening. You may wonder how you will live without it. When I first started receiving help, I was afraid to let go of it, because I didn't believe I could live without it. Even though I was afraid to live without it, deep down I knew that I could not survive with it. I wanted to live, which meant I really had to start fighting to make that happen. I also needed to remind myself that I could not recover perfectly and I needed to stop trying to. Every time I had a slip, I would get so angry with myself and I would end up punishing myself more. During recovery you will probably experience periods of relapse. It's natural for this to happen and it's to be expected. Don't get angry with yourself and don't dwell on it. Instead, remind yourself of all the positive things you have done and all the progress you have made. You can also learn from those relapses, and in the long run, they will make you stronger.
I have suffered from an eating disorder for twenty years and although I'm not totally recovered, and still have a ways to go, I have come a long way and I am confident that one day I will be totally freed from this eating disorder that has robbed me of so many precious years of my life. Looking back over the years, it sometimes amazes that I'm still alive, but I am very grateful to be alive, because I know that so many other people weren't as fortunate as I am. Those negative voices are still present, but I have chosen not to listen to them and I go against them daily, and so can you. I've also been blessed with a wonderful support system. I have a loving husband, family, and friends. I have been fortunate to meet many wonderful people through the internet that also suffer from an eating disorder. I have support from a family doctor who takes special care of me, and last, but certainly not least, I have the support from a wonderful therapist. He encourages me, supports me and most importantly, he listens to me. He has never given up on me and he believes in me. If it wasn't for him, I would have given up on myself a long time ago.
\n\u003cp align\u003d\"left\"\>Recovering from an eating disorder is not easy, and at times it may feel impossible. It's important to keep fighting and never give up, because you are worth saving. Your eating disorder has been your only means of coping for a long time and it will take time to learn new and healthier ways of coping, but it is not impossible. Even though we need help and support to recover, the decision to recover is up to us. No one can make us recover and we are the ones that need to accept the help and take the necessary steps in order to make that happen. You also need to have faith in yourself and you need to start believing in yourself. If you believe in yourself, you can do anything you set your mind to and you can recover. There is a beautiful life waiting for you beyond your eating disorder, but it is up to you to find it.\n\u003c/p\>\n\u003cp align\u003d\"left\"\>I hope the information I have provided on this web site can be of help to you or to a loved one that is suffering from an eating disorder. It is my dream that one day no one will have to experience the pain of an eating disorder. Remember that eating disorders can be beaten, you don't have to be a prisoner to this anymore. You have suffered long enough and now it's time to set yourself free.\n\u003c/p\>\n\u003cp align\u003d\"left\"\>Good luck to you all and God Bless you.\u003c/p\>\u003c/td\>\u003c/tr\>\u003c/tbody\>\u003c/table\>\u003c/div\>\n\u003cp\> \u003c/p\>\n",0]
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Recovering from an eating disorder is not easy, and at times it may feel impossible. It's important to keep fighting and never give up, because you are worth saving. Your eating disorder has been your only means of coping for a long time and it will take time to learn new and healthier ways of coping, but it is not impossible. Even though we need help and support to recover, the decision to recover is up to us. No one can make us recover and we are the ones that need to accept the help and take the necessary steps in order to make that happen. You also need to have faith in yourself and you need to start believing in yourself. If you believe in yourself, you can do anything you set your mind to and you can recover. There is a beautiful life waiting for you beyond your eating disorder, but it is up to you to find it.
I hope the information I have provided on this web site can be of help to you or to a loved one that is suffering from an eating disorder. It is my dream that one day no one will have to experience the pain of an eating disorder. Remember that eating disorders can be beaten, you don't have to be a prisoner to this anymore. You have suffered long enough and now it's time to set yourself free.
Good luck to you all and God Bless you.
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